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Controversial – Are Affiliates Liable for what they Endorse?

Friday, May 28th, 2010

screwed in life

Today I saw in my inbox and email from Eric’s Tips blog, asking for my opinion too, as the post has already 700+ comments! And the topic is highly controversial because it could create a precedent in the Internet affiliate arena, and one that most Internet marketers will not be happy with – if Eric decides to reimburse the money while being not legally liable. Do go to the above mentioned post and read it. This way you’ll know exactly what I am writing about.

In his post Eric describes the situation and asks for the opinion of his readers. More than 90 percent of the 700+ comments are saying that he has no legal liability in this matter – thus, to not put the “guilty shoes on” and refund the guy. That it was this guy’s own mistake to pay the entire amount up front, and without having done any enquiry as to the reliability of the copywriter. After all, Eric was not earning from his recommendation of this copywriter’s service, and he did use his service, and was happy with the results. His – Eric’s endorsement, was a “recommendation made in good faith,” and nothing more than that. It’s everyone’s own responsibility to do their own research before paying for a service – caveat emptor.

Of course, they are correct with their answers regarding legal liability, but Eric’s post is asking not only about the legal liability, but also about the moral, and ethic. And due to it – his credibility, and his reputation. And Eric did take off his blog the recommendation for the copy-writing services of Nicholas Cole. However should he reimburse his reader because the reader took his recommendation and bought the service of Nicolas Cole, that were not good enough for the customers money? The customer feels cheated, and ripped off, and the amount is for $1344. A much larger amount that the one paid by Eric, which was $197.

Most people that are doing business online, be it in the IM arena, or selling other products, and services have been in “the school of hard knocks,” and have been scammed online themselves. And so is yours truly. And due to this, most of us do know how to take and pay for services online. Often copywriters ask for 50% up front, and the other half to be paid after the copy has been finished to the satisfaction of the client. Meaning – I would never pay 100% up front, unless the person is in need of the cash right away, and I have had dealings before with him/her, and know for 99.9% that I will get what I am paying for. Nevertheless I will never do it only because the person has been recommended to me, and no matter by whom.

In Eric’s case I will struggle with the same as he does – credibility, and reputation. And if I am facing the same, than I guess I will offer to complete the copy-writing service where the guy paid for while using my recommendation. Or, I will issue him a refund, if Nicolas Cole does not provide one – which will be the only right thing to do. And of course I will feel terrible to pay such an amount of money, while I have not earned anything out of this deal. However my reputation is worth much, and much more than $1344. Than, I will definitely be very careful whom, and what I am recommending on my sites and blogs, and place the correct legal text on my TOS page to prevent scammers making me liable for similar cases, and trying to get money for free from me.

I would really like to know your stand here, and why. Have a great weekend!

Another Award – Happy 101!

Wednesday, March 24th, 2010

My friend Gregory, at the Day to Day blog has given me Happy 101 Award. And I thank you very much for it Gregory! I am very honored with this award, and consider myself lucky with a friend like you 🙂 Your blogs are on my “often reading” list, and I enjoy your views and at times humoristic look at life. So, lets keep this friendship going in happiness!

The rules that come with this award are as follows:

1. Thank the person that awarded you in a new post.
2. Put the award on your sidebar.
3. Name 10 things that make you happy
4. Pass this award to other bloggers who make you happy.

Ten things that make me happy:

1. To make the people I love happy.
2. A sunny day with the smell and sight of flowers and butterflies.
3. Being with my camera in beautiful surroundings and being able to shoot the beauty there.
4. Being high in the sky on a hot air balloon with beautiful weather and again with my cameras.
5. Seeing people in love, and sharing love.
6. The love of my cat Sylverster and his sweetness.
7. To see the exitement in the eyes of a happy person.
8. When all seems right, and the way it is supposed to be.
9. To be alive, and free, and able to express myself freely.
10. To share this award with friends that are making me happy 🙂

And these are some of the bloggers that are making me happy:

1. Anna at MyOnlyPhoto blog
2. Wenny at Inside my Bubble Today blog
3. JJ Loch at Nature Shows blog
4. Herman at Terrible Analogies blog
5. JD at The Uneasy Supplicant blog
6. Donald at the Unfeathered Angels blog
7. Tomas at the Art by Tomas blog
8. Sibel at the A Moment to Remeber blog

Do Good Anyway…

Thursday, March 11th, 2010

This is from an email that I received from Forward to a Better Day group today, and decided to share with you here on totally-useless.com
Spring is almost here and I look forward to some warmth and sunshine outside, because even though sunny it is still cold here.

pretty violet anomone

People are unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered.

If you do good, people accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.

If you are successful, you win false and true enemies.

The good you do will be forgotten tomorrow.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.

What you spent years building may be destroyed overnight.

People really need help but may attack you if you help them.

Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.

~From a sign in Mother Teresa’s children’s home
Shushu Bhavan, Calcutta, India

Must be shared: Unconditional Love Hug for all of you…

Thursday, November 19th, 2009

Love is so much more than we can imagine. Love heals, and love makes us complete. Today I was sent a link to the message bellow and decided to share it with all of you, and hope that it will be paid forward by most of the readers of totally-useless too.

Unconditional Love Hug

Pause for a couple moments and focus on the Divine Source Energy that is within .  Then consider others.  They can include those  you don’t even know. They might be people you encounter in a public place or communicate with on line.  Your image may be a universal view of  all people.  Just pause  and reflect:

“The same Divine Energy that is within me is in all.  This Source Energy is always there responding to my calling upon it.   I Am That, I Am.  I Am One with all.”

Once you have that awareness simply focus on that image and  energetically think:

“I now send to me and you  an Unconditional Love Hug™ ”

The energetic sending of an Unconditional Love Hug  will do wonders for how you feel.  You will begin to notice you are smiling more and will notice others smiling more  as well.

When we are energetically  sending   an Unconditional Love Hug™ to others ,  we are actually sending  unconditional love for ourselves. We are hugging ourselves.  If you are thinking how can I possibly send an Unconditional Love Hug™  to someone who you are not in alignment with,   remember it is not their Source energy doing the things that you oppose. Our egos can take over and result in words and actions opposite of what we consider good.   Focus on sending unconditional love for the Divine Source Energy within all.  That feeling is an Unconditional Love Hug™.

So now I send you an Unconditional Love Hug™ .  You are welcome and encouraged  to affirm your Unconditional Love Hug ™  in the comment section.

Steve Pohlit
Manifest Mastermind

The Unconditional LOVE Hug...

Saying and Meaning

Tuesday, August 11th, 2009

This is another article which is part of my writings meant to be published on the philosophical blog – The Philosophers Chair. By giving it a “relationship” twist it became more suitable for Totally Useless, or not?

Saying and Meaning
by Tatiana Velitchkov © 2009

Being a basic tool in good communication, saying and meaning is the greatest part of clarity since it conveys a message that is understandable to the other person. Clarity is expressing one self in an open and honest way. This one ensures that no inconveniences will arise at the end of the conversation.

Expressing your feelings to your partner is very vital. This is a cause factor when it comes to the type of bond that you and your partner would like to establish. It is important to understand that everyone deserves a chance to convey their stand. This does not mean that you should stick to each other’s view but coming into the consensus is all logical. Everyone’s point of view should be granted all the due respect.

It is very important to abandon anger when you are passing out any point of view. Realizing that everyone has the opportunity to express their feelings does not grant you permission to express them anyway, but honestly. Some people get it wrong when they tend to believe that expression that is accompanied by anger will make everything work. Little do they know that this one can polarize the relationship. The only way out is conveying a more vulnerable feeling, which poses a challenge to your partner and, hence makes them less defensive and open to developing a caring response.

It is really disgusting to realize that you blame someone for your feelings. The statement that we try to pass across has their way of doing it. You could be blaming your partner but the best way is to do it indirectly for instance “you make me mad” is a direct attack which makes your partner responsible for your feelings instead of saying “I am mad” which will give them the opportunity to start nursing your feelings. Ensure that you own your feeling.

It is important also to realize conveyance of all you want your partner to do. Avoid using the “should” statements but rather, pass it across using the desires that you own by saying “I want you to … or even I would be happy if you did…” this does not mean that all your desires will be honored at once or having unclear statements.

To ensure that all what is said is meant, think about the outcome by taking your time, learn to be an active listener for this will make the other person feel appreciated and understood. Proving to your partner that you are fully listening will attract the real meaning and, hence both of you should understand that listening is not passive.

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And here is a really awesome video called Quest for Meaning – My Philosophy of Life with music by Tracy Chapman

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