Archive for August, 2009

Exultation, and more…

Sunday, August 30th, 2009

Between this and that I took some shots yesterday. Finally, as I’ve been lacking lately in almost everything. And even when I don’t want to do whatsoever – there are some splendid moments. Moments when one realizes how much beauty is surrounding us no matter all the ugliness, or sicknesses, and problems, etc.


ex·ul·ta·tion ( k s l-t sh n, g z l-). n. The act or condition of rejoicing greatly.
My wish for you all, as much as for myself is to Be Splendid and Fabulous during the new week and all the time ahead…

Bloggers Can Write Whatever they Want as long as…

Monday, August 24th, 2009

Last Friday I came across a blog post that made me cringe… Was it because of it’s simillarities with my earlier post: Internet = Freedom? , or not?

And yes, it is very easy to write libelous things about people online, especially while being behind an anonymously set up blog. This does not make it correct however. And because of it – I think it was OK that Liskula Cohen won the lawsuit against Google, and learned the identity of the anonimous blogger.

Do you agree with the statement that bloggers can write whatever they want as long as they are transparent and declare who they are? My personal opinion in such a situation is that yes, if someone wishes to call someone else “names”, than the writer should let it be known who they are. If not, after the precedent created by Liskula Cohen, there is a big chance that the person that has been written about could win in such a lawsuit, and the anonymous writer will be in trouble – to say the least…

There is always the other side of the coin of course, but today is not the day to go deeper in the subject…

Internet = Freedom?

Tuesday, August 18th, 2009

I just read a post on Blorge.com that made my blood boil a little bit… But since I was propelled to leave a comment – I did so after cooling off.

Do read the above mentioned post, and feel free to leave your comments there and here on Totally-Useless.com. What is your point of view regarding the online freedoms we are still able to enjoy, and how would you feel as a blogger having to comply with such rules as explained here?

The legislators in most countries – not only in Italy, do fail to take into account the level playing field of the Internet, and they will keep trying to change the rules until there is no freedom left…

the High Priestess...

Saying and Meaning

Tuesday, August 11th, 2009

This is another article which is part of my writings meant to be published on the philosophical blog – The Philosophers Chair. By giving it a “relationship” twist it became more suitable for Totally Useless, or not?

Saying and Meaning
by Tatiana Velitchkov © 2009

Being a basic tool in good communication, saying and meaning is the greatest part of clarity since it conveys a message that is understandable to the other person. Clarity is expressing one self in an open and honest way. This one ensures that no inconveniences will arise at the end of the conversation.

Expressing your feelings to your partner is very vital. This is a cause factor when it comes to the type of bond that you and your partner would like to establish. It is important to understand that everyone deserves a chance to convey their stand. This does not mean that you should stick to each other’s view but coming into the consensus is all logical. Everyone’s point of view should be granted all the due respect.

It is very important to abandon anger when you are passing out any point of view. Realizing that everyone has the opportunity to express their feelings does not grant you permission to express them anyway, but honestly. Some people get it wrong when they tend to believe that expression that is accompanied by anger will make everything work. Little do they know that this one can polarize the relationship. The only way out is conveying a more vulnerable feeling, which poses a challenge to your partner and, hence makes them less defensive and open to developing a caring response.

It is really disgusting to realize that you blame someone for your feelings. The statement that we try to pass across has their way of doing it. You could be blaming your partner but the best way is to do it indirectly for instance “you make me mad” is a direct attack which makes your partner responsible for your feelings instead of saying “I am mad” which will give them the opportunity to start nursing your feelings. Ensure that you own your feeling.

It is important also to realize conveyance of all you want your partner to do. Avoid using the “should” statements but rather, pass it across using the desires that you own by saying “I want you to … or even I would be happy if you did…” this does not mean that all your desires will be honored at once or having unclear statements.

To ensure that all what is said is meant, think about the outcome by taking your time, learn to be an active listener for this will make the other person feel appreciated and understood. Proving to your partner that you are fully listening will attract the real meaning and, hence both of you should understand that listening is not passive.

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And here is a really awesome video called Quest for Meaning – My Philosophy of Life with music by Tracy Chapman

Is this a form of Child Abuse?

Thursday, August 6th, 2009

The following video of a mother which is literally dragging her child across a Verizon shop’s floor on leash is already a sensation on the Internet. What do you think? Is this a form of child abuse as some are claiming, or is it highly overblown according to you?

My own opinion about it is – not something that I will ever do even if my child is enjoying it.

Hot Air Ballooning – Nijmegen to Emmerich part 3

Sunday, August 2nd, 2009

Here are a few more captures from the hot air ballooning taken on the 12th of July 2009 on the Nijmegen to Emmercih trip.

This one is from a cemetery taken from above… and better to take it from above than being under the ground already, where all of us will end some day 😉

cemetery from above

Another beautiful mansion taken from above.

a mansion from above

A castle from above.

castle from above

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